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Relationships are at the core of our civilization! We cannot build anything without relationships. Whether for business or pleasure, we always need to cultivate relationships in order to achieve intended goals. Those with tumultuous lives, more often than not, have tumultuous relationships. They do not possess the ability to manage expectations within appropriate frameworks; they do not have proper boundaries! Eastern cultures struggle with boundaries, because the demands made by family, friends, and strangers on an individual are not made within mutually beneficial relationship ecosystems. Plus, eastern cultures form relationships around social activities centered on consumption, instead of activities centered on production. How we manage our relationships can be one of the main ways that we can best manage our time: our most important resource.  One of the best ways to think about relationships is to use visual devices. One such device is to think of relationships, and the bounda...

Some may take issue with the title of this article because of the “Easter” connection to paganism. Most publicly recognized holidays have pagan roots or connections, Easter to the god of fertility and Christmas to the god of the weather. I chose to ignore names and focus on the festivities surrounding the holidays. Names given are important, but not as important as what is done. In my opinion, a church that conducts easter egg hunts is embracing the god of fertility far more than one that calls their Sunday service, Easter. So whether it is Easter Sunday or Resurrection Sunday, preaching Jesus Christ crucified, buried, and raised from the dead should be central to the activities surrounding this well recognized and celebrated weekend.  Churches are packed like sporting events during Easter weekend because people who ordinarily do not go to church decide to attend. Plus, those who have friends and family visiting from out of town are more likely to invite them to tag along on Resurr...

Choosing a life partner is not an easy thing, because so much of the process feels unintentional and out of our control. I had the thought that my wife would be my wife when I first met her, but that thought left me as soon as I started contemplating its plausibility. The second time the thought that she would be my wife came along, I do not know how or why, but I felt I was ready. My pastors, mentors, family, and friends helped solidify my feelings.  Who you have around you at the time makes a huge difference. I was not sure if my wife was “the one” or my “soulmate,” however I was sure that my life needed her in it and that her life needed me in hers. Life is a journey that needs us to have companions for the voyage. We have to know who to partner with in order to accomplish our dreams, face life’s challenges, grow as people, and contribute to the world.  I chose the term “life partner” because that is how I see my wife, and that is what I was looking for. I knew that I neede...

Africa is a land that has the most raw materials, arable land, and future business opportunities. The things that plague Africa, are things that plague the people and not nature. The richest parts of the continent have the most strife, and the common people, who just want to enjoy their God-given rights, pay the heaviest price. Geopolitical unrest and the improper use of natural resources has caused starvation, disease, and lost generations. We need to look at the values and beliefs that have enabled the outside: colonialists, religious extremists, and corporate interests, to destabilize an otherwise promising continent. This is not to say that there were never any problems originating from within Africa, but it is to say that those problems, and all others, have been accentuated or weaponized by those who want the resources for close to nothing.  We need to start believing in the power of competence over the power of corruption. Many Africans believe, wrongly, that prosperity come...

According to the book of Genesis, God made the earth and saw that it was good. He made man, said that it was good, but saw that it was not good for man to be alone. So he made women, who together with man, would make humanity good; “man and woman, he created them.” This means that a woman is a gift to a man, not in the possessive sense, but in a complementary sense. The only problem is that men have forgotten that God gave them women. They do not grasp the fact that a woman is an equal and a gift from God that they cannot own. This means that no man can give a woman to a man and no man can “take” a woman. Men and women are to be one flesh brought together by God for His glory and the betterment of the human race. We’ve forgotten that God has gifted us with each other.   Things go wrong when we forget the giver of the gift. Saul forgot that before Samuel came to tell him that God had chosen him to be king, he was just a handsome man from the tribe of Benjamin. God made Saul kin...

One of the biggest moments to occur on the Oscars’ stage came at the Oscars of 2022. Will Smith slapped Chris Rock for a joke Chris told about Will’s wife, Jada Pinkett-Smith. At first, it seemed like a stunt, but after Will Smith took his seat and started yelling at Chris, everyone knew that it was real. How could such an episode happen at the Oscars, an event filled with regal class? The answer is simple, and it is not because the two people involved were men or that they were black. This has nothing to do with race, but everything to do with emotionally driven impulse. This is about not being able to wait until you can use your words at the right time, on the right platform.  Most people have been talking about what’s wrong with Hollywood, the Smith’s, black people, masculinity, comedians, and the world, instead of talking about how best to respond to the incident. The reasons why this public display of violence took place are not complex and they come to light when we explore p...